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Hello, we are Tim and Jill, but we also respond to Jim and Till (which you would be surprised how often that happens). Thank you so much for taking the time to get to know us a little better and read our story.
We started dating in high school. While we don’t have an official date, we always say that we became a couple when we went to our senior dinner dance with other people (both very good friends at the time) and ended up spending most of our time dancing with each other. We dated throughout college – Tim was over 1000 miles away in Iowa and Jill stayed in Central New York – but we made it work through snail mail, homemade cookies, and GTalk. After three years of dating, Tim proposed in 2006 and we were married in 2009.
We always knew that we wanted to grow our family through adoption. Both of us have family members and friends that were adopted and we cannot wait to start our family the same way.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
It's been quite awhile since we last posted to our blog. We each lost a grandfather in less than a month of each other and we decided that we needed to spend more quality time with our families (and more time away from our phones). So, today I wanted to share our Saturday ritual (it's not very complex but we do it very consistently). It requires getting out of our pajamas (eww...) but it's worth it. We drive (sometimes walk or ride our bikes) to our local cafe and eat brunch (preferably outside if the weather is nice enough; which today it was). Hope you are enjoying your weekend!
One of our greatest pleasures is spending time with our families... extended family included. Today our nephews had a game as well as our cousin's children. Needless to say, we had a great time playing with the littles. Below is a picture of Jill's mom with one of the sweet babes 💕
This weekend we were able to enjoy a nice nature walk in a nearby neighborhood. It wasn't exactly warm out but the fresh air was nice.
Today is the nephews first baseball game for the season!
The weather decided to cooperate this weekend which allowed us to have a fun game of kickball and a few innings of baseball with our sister and nephews. We hope you enjoyed your Easter!
This week in Central New York it seemed as though spring was finally coming around but last night it snowed. While we can't wait for spring to get here so we can enjoy more outdoor activities, the snow and sunshine is awfully beautiful today. Here is one of the beautiful parks in our neighborhood 💕
Tim and I have been working hard (mostly trying to keep busy) tackling more house projects. I am not nearly as strong as Tim so I decided to find a more manageable job to finish. So, here it is... I'm refinishing an old dresser. It's not even closed to finished yet but here's what it looks like now. Fingers crossed it turns out okay!
This is an incredibly delayed post because the holidays were difficult for us this year (as it was for most people). But here is the greatest decorations that we found. They really went all out! In their enclosed front porch they had dolls that were set up to be Santa's workshop 💕
This year we decided to try to do a Christmas photo with our dog, Penny. We have never attempted it before but I think we nailed it!
To get ourselves in the Halloween spirit we tried something new this year (since this year has been a year of firsts for everyone). Halloween House Hunting - it's like going to look at Christmas lights but it's slightly harder because not everyone decorates for Halloween. We went for at least a half an hour drive, up and down the streets of our surrounding neighborhoods on multiple different occasions and after some deliberation we decided that we liked this one the best! Happy Halloween!
This weekend, since it has been getting colder, we decided to starting hanging up Christmas lights. Halloween is our favorite holiday but we've learned that the snow comes earlier than you expect it to. This year we decided NOT to hang them up in freezing temperatures. Central New York weather is not going to catch us off guard (not this year, at least).
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